September 28, 2025
When life feels like a runaway train, sometimes the best thing you can do is sit back and remind yourself that nobody is really driving. Today’s Thought of the Day and Question of the Day remind us that control is an illusion, and the questions worth asking are often the ones we can’t quite answer. Let’s dig into both, because if nothing’s under control, we might as well laugh, reflect, and keep asking hard questions anyway.
Thought of the Day: “Relax. Nothing is under control.” — Adi Da
That sentence hit me like a splash of cold water. On the surface, it sounds terrifying. If nothing is under control, how am I supposed to function? How am I supposed to plan my week, raise my kids, or even keep my coffee from going cold?
But then I sat with it. Maybe there’s freedom in this thought. Maybe “relax” isn’t just a suggestion, but the only rational response. The laundry pile, the late emails, the unexpected stomach bug that tears through your house right when you were feeling productive, none of it was ever under my control.
This thought is an invitation to loosen the grip. When I fight for control, I usually end up exhausted. When I accept that control was never on the table, I can actually breathe. It’s the same lesson I wrote about in why bad news doesn’t really exist: what we call “bad” is often just our refusal to let go of the idea we had for how things should go.
Relax. Not because life is easy, but because it isn’t, and you don’t have to fix it all.
Question of the Day: What is the most difficult question to answer?
It depends who’s asking, doesn’t it? My five-year-old asked me last week why the cat was staring at the wall. I gave him my best scientific dad answer: “She probably hears something we don’t.” He followed up with, “But why?” At some point, every parent learns there’s no such thing as a final answer with kids, just more questions.
The most difficult questions, though, are the ones that reveal us. Not the trivia kind, but the ones that make us stop mid-sentence.
Questions like:
- “What do you want most out of life?”
- “Why are you afraid to do the thing you dream about?”
- “Are you happy, or just busy?”
These are the questions that don’t care about your quick, clever response. They want you to pause, wrestle, and maybe admit you don’t know. And that’s uncomfortable. But it’s also where growth happens.
I wrote once about what people misunderstand most about me. That post came from a Question of the Day that was almost impossible to answer honestly without peeling back the layers. Today’s question feels like the same kind of mirror—it shows you yourself whether you like it or not.
So maybe the most difficult question isn’t a specific one. Maybe it’s whichever question forces you to stop pretending you’re in control and gets you to admit you’re just figuring it out, like the rest of us.
A Thought and a Question Walking Side by Side
Taken together, today’s Thought of the Day and Question of the Day are oddly perfect partners. If nothing is under control, then why do we expect ourselves to have perfect answers? The hardest questions will always be unanswerable in neat, clean ways. But maybe that’s okay.
The real point isn’t to nail the answer—it’s to let the question work on you. To let it strip away the illusion of control and bring you closer to honesty.
Call to Action
I’d love to hear your take: What do you think is the most difficult question to answer? Drop your thoughts in the comments or join the conversation in my daily email where we reflect on a new Thought and Question each day.
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