The One Thing More Toxic Than Rain: Thought of the Day and Question of the Day

Rain has soaked everything here in New Jersey for what feels like two straight weeks, and I’m not even mad about it. In fact, today’s Thought of the Day and Question of the Day both landed like gentle raindrops on the roof—one with a little sting, the other with a soft rhythm. One asks us to confront bitterness. The other invites us to notice beauty.

Let’s dig into both and see what they reveal.

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🌧️ Thought of the Day:

“Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.” — Anne Lamott

Anne Lamott has a gift for taking something messy and painful—like resentment—and dressing it up in a line so blunt you almost laugh before you wince. This one in particular hits a little too close to home.

Forgiveness is rarely for the other person. It’s for you. And it’s not about excusing or forgetting. It’s about releasing. Because carrying around the weight of past hurts is exhausting. It doesn’t make you noble—it just makes you tired and toxic.

When I first heard this quote, I thought about a grudge I’d been nursing like a twisted little bonsai tree—meticulously tended, bitterly beautiful. I was waiting for the “rat” to feel bad. Spoiler: they didn’t. Meanwhile, I was the one feeling poisoned.

Letting go didn’t mean the past was okay. It just meant I was ready to stop sipping poison with my morning coffee.

If this resonates, you might also connect with this reflection on correcting people who are committed to being stupid or this reminder that failure isn’t final.

☔ Question of the Day:

What is your favorite type of weather?

Let me tell you—after two weeks of gray skies and relentless drizzle, you’d think I’d be begging for sunshine. But honestly? I loved it. Today, especially, the rain poured in sheets, tapping the windows like a lullaby. There’s something about that soft, steady sound that just calms the nerves.

Rainy days feel like a permission slip from the universe to stay inside, slow down, and just be. No pressure to be productive. No pretending the world isn’t a little soggy sometimes.

Maybe your favorite weather is a crisp fall morning. Or a sunbeam in spring. Or maybe—like me—it’s a gray day with coffee in hand, a soft blanket, and nothing urgent on the calendar.

Weather is so personal. It’s not just about climate—it’s about mood. And your favorite weather says more about you than you think.

Looking for more questions that get beneath the surface? Try:

• What sound do you look forward to hearing each Spring?
• What’s your favorite day of the week and why?
  

💬 Let’s Keep the Conversation Going

What kind of weather makes you feel most at peace? And what’s one thing you’ve finally forgiven—for your own sake?

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