Question and Thought of the Day March 25, 2025
Thought of the Day:
“Saints always have a past and sinners always have a future.” Oscar Wilde
Question of the Day:
What’s your #1 most instantly-attractive trait?
“Saints always have a past and sinners always have a future.” – Oscar Wilde
This quote hits different when you really sit with it. It’s not just clever—it’s disarming. Because if you read between the lines, Wilde isn’t making a moral judgment. He’s inviting us to let go of the myth that people are fixed, finished, or final.
We love a redemption arc when it’s on a screen. We cheer for the villain who turns hero, the addict who finds clarity, the lost soul who finds purpose. But in real life? We’re a little more hesitant to let people evolve. Especially ourselves.
Why?
Because it’s safer to believe in labels. If someone’s a “saint,” they must’ve always been good. If someone’s a “sinner,” they must always be one step from slipping back. But Wilde’s reminding us that both of those assumptions are lies.
The people we look up to—the ones who seem so composed, wise, grounded—didn’t just become that way overnight. They got scarred. They messed up. They lived through something. They buried old versions of themselves and kept going. Their past isn’t a liability. It’s the foundation of their strength.
And on the flip side, the people we write off too quickly—the ones struggling or acting out or not yet living up to their potential—Wilde’s telling us: Don’t count them out. Their story isn’t done. They have a future. A good one, even. One that might surprise you.
So what does that mean for you?
It means if you’ve been wearing guilt like a second skin, it’s time to shed it. You’re not your worst moment.
It means if you’ve been putting someone on a pedestal, be gentle—because they’re just as human as you are.
And if you’ve been beating yourself up for who you used to be, hear this clearly: You are not disqualified from goodness, love, growth, or peace. In fact, you might be the most qualified person in the room to lead, to love, to lift others up—because of what you’ve been through.
There’s no finish line to this thing. We’re always becoming. Always. The saint inside you is still unfolding. And the sinner in you isn’t the end of the story—it’s just one chapter in a very human, very sacred book.
And while we’re talking about books, let’s hit the Question of the Day, What’s your #1 most instantly-attractive trait? Not the book cover, not the fake-it-‘til-you-make-it charm. Because we all know you shouldn’t judge a book by it’s over. I’m talking about the thing that actually pulls people in.
For some people, it’s warmth. That natural ability to make a stranger feel like they belong.
For others, it’s confidence—the kind that isn’t about being the loudest person in the room, but the most grounded.
Maybe it’s your curiosity. Maybe it’s your laugh. Maybe it’s the way you look someone in the eye like you’ve got nothing to prove.
Whatever your most attractive trait is, it’s probably rooted in the messy, honest, human parts of you. And here’s the kicker: the things that make us magnetic often come from the same places where we’ve been broken or bruised. That’s the saint’s past. That’s the sinner’s future.
So, what’s the trait in you that pulls people closer, that makes them feel seen, or safe, or challenged in the best way?
Take a second. Think about it. Then own it.