December 16, 2025
There’s a moment when you realize that time served does not equal mastery.
You’ve been doing something for years. Years. You’ve logged the hours. You’ve paid the dues. You’ve shown up consistently enough that, on paper, you should absolutely know what you’re doing by now.
And yet… here you are. Still confused. Still guessing. Still occasionally Googling things you feel like you should have figured out already.
That’s what makes today’s Question of the Day quietly hilarious and deeply human.
Because once you stop and think about it, most of life fits into this category.
I’ve been an adult for a while now, and there are still entire systems I don’t fully understand. Taxes feel like a choose-your-own-adventure book written by someone who actively dislikes you. Parenting is a daily reminder that experience doesn’t prevent surprises. And don’t even get me started on sleep. I’ve been doing it my whole life and still can’t reliably explain what actually helps.
But the question isn’t really about competence. It’s about honesty.
We like the idea that repetition leads to clarity. Do something long enough and eventually it all clicks. Sometimes that happens. Often, it doesn’t. What usually happens instead is that we learn how to function inside the confusion.
We build instincts without explanations. We develop habits without understanding the mechanics. We get better at managing things we still can’t fully define.
Relationships are a great example. You can love someone deeply and still not understand why certain conversations go sideways or why small things suddenly feel big. You learn how to navigate without ever having a clean blueprint.
Even knowing yourself falls into this category. You’d think after all these years you’d have a clear owner’s manual. Instead, you get patterns. Hunches. The occasional “ohhh, that explains a lot” moment that arrives late and leaves early.
And yet, we keep going.
That’s the part I find oddly comforting. Not understanding hasn’t stopped us. It hasn’t disqualified us from participating in our own lives. We still show up to work. We still raise kids. We still maintain friendships. We still try to improve, even when the instructions are unclear.
There’s also something freeing about admitting this out loud. It lowers the bar from “expert” to “engaged.” It reminds us that doing something imperfectly for years still counts as experience, even if it doesn’t come with full clarity.
So if you’re feeling behind because you don’t fully understand something you’ve been doing forever, you’re not broken. You’re normal.
Understanding is nice when it shows up. But it’s not a prerequisite for continuing.
Most of us are just learning as we go, hoping we’re headed roughly in the right direction, and trusting that some things make sense only in hindsight.
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