Question of the Day: What’s something someone should never ask to borrow?

October 3, 2025

There are certain things in life you just don’t ask to borrow. A car? Maybe. A cup of sugar? Absolutely. But underwear? Hard pass.

Some things are simply too personal, too intimate, or too absurd to ever leave the ownership of the person they belong to. And yet, people try. I once had a buddy in college ask if he could “borrow” my deodorant. Not the stick itself, but if I could “spot him a swipe.” No. Just no. There are lines you don’t cross.

That’s the fun of today’s Question of the Day. We all have our own version of “the unborrowable.” For some it’s clothing, for others it’s their toothbrush. Some folks won’t let you touch their phone charger, their favorite hoodie, or their secret recipe binder. And honestly, I respect that. Boundaries matter.

Think about it, when someone asks to borrow something you’d never lend, it’s not just about the object. It’s about the unspoken rules of dignity, hygiene, and trust. Asking to borrow a pen is casual. Asking to borrow socks is weird. Asking to borrow underwear? That’s either a joke or a crime against humanity.

The older I get, the more I realize the “never ask to borrow” list is really about protecting the parts of ourselves we can’t easily replace. You can replace a lawnmower. You can replace a mixing bowl. But you can’t replace your sense of comfort if you let someone cross a boundary that makes you cringe every time you think about it.

So today I’ll say this: don’t be afraid to have your unborrowable list. You’re not selfish for keeping your toothbrush, your passwords, or your underwear to yourself. You’re just being human.

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So… what’s something someone should never ask to borrow?

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