Thought of the Day and Question of the Day: When You Just Don’t Care

In today’s Thought of the Day and Question of the Day, we’re diving headfirst into the awkward, uncomfortable, and oddly freeing space between caring deeply and not caring at all. What happens when you finally let go—and what if the things you’re “supposed” to care about never made sense in the first place?

Thought of the Day

“I gave up caring about anything, and all the problems disappeared.” — Fyodor Dostoevsky

Okay, Dostoevsky, now you’re just showing off.

I mean, who among us hasn’t fantasized about pulling the emotional fire alarm and walking away from every obligation, drama, or unpaid bill with the same casual energy of a cat knocking something off the counter?

And yet, buried in the Russian gloom of this quote is something oddly… peaceful. Because the truth is, we waste so much of our energy caring about the wrong things. What people think. What they might think. Whether that person texted back fast enough. Whether your email tone was too blunt. Whether you’re achieving enough, being enough, fixing enough.

I’ve been caring too much lately—and not about the right things. When my kids ask for attention, I find myself checking my phone. When my wife reaches for connection, I’m lost in my to-do list. And when my own spirit needs rest, I treat that like a scheduling conflict instead of a priority.

The truth is, I don’t want to care about everything. I want to care about the right things. And maybe, letting go of the rest isn’t neglect. Maybe it’s wisdom.

Question of the Day

What’s something you should care about—but just can’t?

Taxes? NFT prices? Your cousin’s third wedding? Everyone’s got something.

For me, it’s fashion.

Nope that’s a lie. I could not care less about the brand labels or wrinkle free pants. I do admire a good pair of low cut Chuck Taylors. But when it comes down to it, I’m a “what’s clean and doesn’t smell” kind of guy. The idea of laying out outfits the night before? That’s adorable. I’m just trying to find two socks that match in the morning.

We all carry these “shoulds” around—should care more about politics, should care more about networking, should care more about flossing. But the reality is, you only have so much bandwidth. And maybe it’s okay if some of that gets spent on what actually matters to you.

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